Transvestia

slim. Many have gone out, but just because they were not picked up does not mean that no one read them. Lots of people don't care, but it's the 1, 000 th who does care and calls the cops that can create a very nasty situation. In the average small town or suburban community a hus- band and father who goes about dressed in women's clothes will be regarded as an odd-ball at best, and probably something much worse. Hence, of necessity, most of his dressing must be done in the privacy of his home, and preferably without the knowledge of his children. Those who are fortunate enough to live near other TVs can meet in each other's homes for parties, with the guest room turned into a dressing room for all the "Cinderellas". Others may have to settle for occasional evenings when the children are away or in bed. Some get up early in the morning, to have an hour or so of privacy before any- one else in the family is up.

We want you to look your best, but sometimes the single-minded preoccupation with cosmetics and clothes and your rather adolescent outlook get a bit too much for us. There is more to being feminine than mere sur- face looks. There is sitting, walking, standing, and again sitting, voice and mannerisms. If you can reach an understanding with your wife she can help you with all of this. She can do a great deal of your shopping for you, saving you possible embarrassment and giving you the benefit of her experience. She can help you choose accessories and assist with make-up and hairstyling. Most of you want to continue to eat and to be able to buy things for your "sister" as well as for your family, and it seems fool-hardy to take chances that may result in losing your job so you can't buy anything for anybody. A little self- evaluation and compromise would seem to put every one ahead.

Finally, I ask you to be patient with us as you would have us be patient with you. For the average TV with an average wife and that's most of you the best solution would seem to be mutual understanding. We acknowledge your need to dress on occasion but you must remember that we really want a man, not another woman, and we do care what our friends and neighbors think. We can help you become more attractive girls and you can learn to know yourself. Eventually you and your "sister" will